Re: Seeking fall hunting buddy - Wife won't let me hunt alone
Originally Posted by hawk-i
Flowers???? Buy her a rifle and take her hunting with you! What is she going to kill with flowers?? JMHO
Rick, don't take her!!!
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Re: Seeking fall hunting buddy - Wife won't let me hunt alone
Originally Posted by RugDoctor
To each his own, and with all due respect to anyone’s sense of duty to their relationship….I don’t make commitments to hunt, travel, or do anything dependant on anyone who needs to ask their wife’s permission. Too often it’s a cop out when the rubber meets the road and it’s time do do a thing and some poor unknowing wife is the fall guy for a husband to bail on a commitment.
Good on anyone who makes it work however they can….too many casual divorces in my opinion…..definitely not giving anyone any relationship advice….but I choose not to rely on any adult in need of permission from another. I agree there may be a need to have any discussions necessary…will this work for us both? Why/why not etc…..but to get permission? My wife won’t let me do xy or z? Nah.
yep...you can only tolerate and/or placate a person with anger and control issues so much before you lose a piece of yourself
Re: Seeking fall hunting buddy - Wife won't let me hunt alone
I think in general it’s best to hunt with a friend. For many reasons.
I have some health issues and have been off work, still able to hunt a fair amount of the time and even manage backpacking in the mountains. Last year I wanted to go sheep hunting in August and it didn’t work for my friends or family. My wife said she didn’t like the idea of me going alone. I explained that when I am by myself, I hunt at my own pace. If I want to push myself, or take it easy, it’s not influenced by anyone else. I am more cautious about the terrain I cross, and where I am. Certainly much more concerned about water crossings and precipitation, and everything. I told her I wasn’t going to not do the things that make me who I am because I don’t have company (who could be a liability anyways)So I went for a 10 day solo hunt off the highway past Fort Nelson, and she told our friends she wasn’t thrilled but I was too stubborn to be reasonable, lol. True.
Anyways after the first few inreach check-ins she relaxed and I only checked in a few times after that. I found a few rams, including an 8 year old that I decided I was not packing out by myself 20 plus km back to the highway. It was fantastic.
And when I do it again she probably won’t be concerned at all. It’s basically about setting expectations. I know a few guys who didn’t insist on going hunting when they were in a new relationship and then couldn’t convince their partners it was important, or wouldn’t risk the relationship. If they had just told them from the start that it was happening regardless they would’ve been fine.
so my advice is to do the best you can to find a good partner (not easy) and tell your wife that you will be hunting regardless. Maybe someplace less challenging, but doing what you enjoy and what makes you who you are if at all possible. Pretty selfish of her to get in the way of that.
Re: Seeking fall hunting buddy - Wife won't let me hunt alone
Originally Posted by RugDoctor
To each his own, and with all due respect to anyone’s sense of duty to their relationship….I don’t make commitments to hunt, travel, or do anything dependant on anyone who needs to ask their wife’s permission. Too often it’s a cop out when the rubber meets the road and it’s time do do a thing and some poor unknowing wife is the fall guy for a husband to bail on a commitment.
Good on anyone who makes it work however they can….too many casual divorces in my opinion…..definitely not giving anyone any relationship advice….but I choose not to rely on any adult in need of permission from another. I agree there may be a need to have any discussions necessary…will this work for us both? Why/why not etc…..but to get permission? My wife won’t let me do xy or z? Nah.
this is bang on, I am an adult and if I want to go hunting or whatever else I am doing it and not asking permission like my wife is my mother, much like I’d never expect her to ask me if she’s allowed to go on a girls trip or whatever. Hurts my heart seeing this happen to so many people. Like you said though, I tip my hat to those that can make it work.
Re: Seeking fall hunting buddy - Wife won't let me hunt alone
Originally Posted by wideopenthrottle
yep...you can only tolerate and/or placate a person with anger and control issues so much before you lose a piece of yourself
I agree , I have given up so so much with my fiance that I went out only a few times last year , missed all spring bear hunting because it's all about her. She thinks we can go hunting at 1 pm and head out somewhere to hunt lol or it'd about her kids lol ffs I'm ready to pull the pin and be a bachelor again I'm tired of giving up so much ...
Last edited by Vortex hunter; 06-11-2025 at 06:18 PM.
Re: Seeking fall hunting buddy - Wife won't let me hunt alone
Originally Posted by Vortex hunter
I agree , I have given up so so much with my fiance that I went out only a few times last year , missed all spring bear hunting because it's all about her. She thinks we can go hunting at 1 pm and head out somewhere to hunt lol or it'd about her kids lol ffs I'm ready to pull the pin and be a bachelor again I'm tired of giving up so much ...
the good ones are out there.
I’ve never had to ask mine permission to hunt or go away. Over a decade of me going on several week + hunting and fishing trips every single year. Most years one of those hunts is 3 weeks alone…
what I’m trying to say is there are great women out there. You only live once, why settle for someone that’s going to hold you back from doing whatever it is you love?
Re: Seeking fall hunting buddy - Wife won't let me hunt alone
Originally Posted by RyoTHC
what I’m trying to say is there are great women out there. You only live once, why settle for someone that’s going to hold you back from doing whatever it is you love?
exactly. If your partner won’t do her best to support you doing what you love she is just using you.
was it not the infamous Tom Leykis who explained in detail how women are pressured/taught by society to vaginize their men to the point they are so effeminate that they leave them to find a man who is still whole?
if you care at all about her you will tell her you are going hunting.
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Originally Posted by hawk-i
Flowers???? Buy her a rifle and take her hunting with you! What is she going to kill with flowers??JMHO
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