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caves16
02-07-2013, 03:28 PM
At the risk of exposing myself to fire, I wish nonetheless to provide the following information and pose the question: what do you think?

Some may know there is new provincial legislation in BC starting March 18, 2012 that governs Family matters in BC. It applies (generally) to both married spouses and those living 'common law'. The new act is called Family Law Act.
Issues of family violence are getting key attention, both within the court process as well as in "alternative dispute resolution". In an effort to resolve family disputes outside of the courts, the use of family arbitrators, mediators and parenting coordinators are specifically set out in the legislation. Now there are all sorts of interesting rules and procedures. No one yet knows how this will pan out in practice. Everyone seems hopeful for a sunny future where bitter and costly divorce actions are a thing of the past.
All "Family Dispute Resolution Professionals" are required to have training in family violence. "Family Violence" is so broadly defined in the legislation that even I am guilty of 'abusing' my husband (poor dear). The court system can require the spouses to go to dispute resolution (eg. to see a Family Justice Counsellor, for instance). This means you do not have a 'choice'.
All the Family Dispute Resolution Professionals are required by law to conduct "screening" and 'assessment' for 'family violence'. There are a number of 'screening tools' (questionnaires) circulating among these professionals. Questions such as 'has your spouse made you feel guilty? Refused to recognize your feelings? Called you names? Restricted your use of family money? etc etc...
The question which many of you have already anticipated:
there are questions about whether there are weapons and or guns in the home.

These screening tools are used by all levels of our court and family law systems. I'm not clear how, and who has access to these things and what 'labels' might be put on families. I have not seen any info on what will be done with these screening tools, and what will be done if 'violence' is noted. They are written documents, and I dont know where they are kept, and who they are provided to. Keep in mind the screening is so broad that I doubt any families will not have at least some 'pings' on the tests.

Any concerns about a disgruntled spouse answering the broad spectrum of questions and 'disclosing' the presence of guns?
We already have this review each time we renew our possession license, but this seems different and I am left with too many questions about what the 'system' will be doing with this information.
Thoughts?

Ron.C
02-07-2013, 04:13 PM
I'm perfectly ok with my wife not recognising my feelings, calling me names and restricting my use of money. As long as I can go hunting, I call it a good trade :wink:

seriously though, I'm not the least bit worried.

.330 Dakota
02-07-2013, 05:33 PM
Written by some limp minded socialist no doubt

358mag
02-07-2013, 06:11 PM
Written by some limp minded socialist no doubt

Like the next NDP Premier ?:twisted:

caves16
02-07-2013, 08:20 PM
Ok, maybe i glossed over the most important part: the Family Law Act governs the resolution of disputes when your relationship breaks down. Like you are separating, splitting up, moving on, going your own ways, getting kicked to the curb, ousted, etc...
In my experience, not many relationships break up nicely, or in a friendly way. People under stress and mad say/do dumb things. Statistically, spouses are most vulnerable to abuse or violence when the relationship ends.
No one can really predict how their spouse will behave when you split up. Your wife may be great now, Ron.C, but start fighting over the kids or the house and see how different people can become...
If half of marriages end in divorce it is bound to happen to a number of us. We must, as a group, be more vulnerable to divorce than the regular public - we disappear into the bush for weeks in the fall, obscess about hunting in the off season, drag bloody dead things home, are smelly, and fill the garage with outdoor stuff... my guess it would try the patience and love of a saint.
But seriously, could this mean because you are in the midst of a divorce and your spouse claims you punched a hole in the drywall during an argument (and I am NOT saying thats OK at all), plus you happen to be a gun owner...
Now just because you have a gun, doesnt mean you would ever point it at a human, and just because you are splitsville doesnt mean you would hurt your ex... but we see what happens to our firearm rights when some whack job shoots kids at a school...
What will our government do with this info? With stats that can be 'spun' to say that 70% of households in BC with guns also have 'Family Violence' (...like the 'violence' Ron.C admitted he suffers)...
Well, see where this could go? Am I the only one who wonders if this is a brilliant end run for gun control? How many hunter-lawyers out there? HOw many lawyers with a spouse that hunts? This could go by undetected until its too late

.330 Dakota
02-07-2013, 08:36 PM
Like the next NDP Premier ?:twisted:

Im just praying that doesnt happen,,,hopefully the Libs get back in, and learn that they are the lesser of 2 evils,,not the choice,,then maybe the Cons can get their shit together for the next vote

Mr. Dean
02-08-2013, 01:46 AM
Wrong forum.